“Looking at beauty in the world, is the first step of purifying the mind.”
by Amit Ray
“Happiness is part of who we are. Joy is the feeling”
by Tony DeLiso
“Your greatest awakening comes, when you are aware about your infinite nature.”
by Amit Ray
People with high self-esteem are more likely to feel threatened when a particular situation does not support their goals and/or behaviour and as a result may be less flexible to change, however people with lower self-esteem are more flexible and likely to change their behaviour after constructive feedback or when the situation or circumstance is getting in the way of their goals.
This is because people with higher self-esteem have enough understanding of who they are and therefore effective in setting their goals and staying committed. However, when situations are creating conflict toward their sense of self and goals, then they are more likely to feel threatened and defensive resulting in irrational behaviour. On the hand when somebody has lower self-esteem and a situation is creating conflict to their sense of self, then they will have more room to reflect as they have not yet fully understood who they are and open to constructive feedback.
The conflicting circumstance of self and situation may bring the person back to a crisis and need to explore, which is identity foreclosure in James Marcia's (1968) four identity statuses. When the person is willing to commit to change through negotiation of self and situation, then achievement of identity formation will occur. Achievement means that the person has gone through various forms of exploration due to crisis as they were committed to manage the crisis and flexible enough to change their behaviour so when a similar crisis occurs they can effectively cope with it in self-supporting ways that would lead to growth, rather than behave in self-defeating ways.
Lastly, when a person with high self-esteem is behaving irrationally and may respond in self-defeating ways, they will still have the capability to think about the situation, understand it is a crisis and then begin to explore the conflict for change. Therefore, change is possible when space is provided between the situation and self to reflect.
Source: Hogan, R., Johnson, J., Briggs, S. (1997). Handbook of Personality Psychology. California, USA: Academic Press.
Conflict is a perceived threat to the personal or collective goal and therefore it is much about your own wants and needs.
Conflict can be more about perception rather than what is actually happening. Therefore understanding what is important to you can help you recognise your perception of the situation.
Conflict relates to interpersonal and intrapersonal aspects of yourself. This means that is can also cause inner and outer conflict. Inner conflict caused by intrapersonal aspects of the self can be caused by your thoughts, emotions, beliefs and feelings.
Therefore to resolve conflict you will have to consider your inter and intra personal aspects of the self, which in turn will help you learn how to manage conflict.
It is important to understand that sometimes conflict cannot be resolved, but it can always be managed. This means that you can iron out your differences respectfully or let go of the situation because you can't resolve it, but can resolve your own intrapersonal wants, thoughts, feelings, beliefs, etc.
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