Sometimes we think that children grow up too quickly or maybe that we expect them to become adults sooner than they should. Therefore when they make a mistake that we see as difficulties (such as not doing their homework on time, answering back or speeding) we become agitated causing them to either become angry, withdrawn (move away from you and go to their friends) or feel a high level of anxiety. They either won't talk to you or swear at you.
A child's/adolescent's brain is going through development as much as their bodies are. Therefore their thinking is developing through social experiences and their emotions are on a high including the feeling of excitement when doing a good deed. Now a good deed for somebody young can be different to an adult. A good deed may be motivated through their peers such as stealing and then feeling accepted amongst their friends.
Also their abstract thinking is still developing causing the younger people to possibly not make the best choices. Even this may irritate an adult, it is their way of experimenting their social skills and learning about their uniqueness. Therefore even though putting up with a growing child/young adult can seem frustrating and challenging, understanding how to improve parent-child interaction is important to facilitate their growth in a positive direction.
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